Ā deVining the Erotic
Ā TheĀ irreverent and insightful writings of
Sexologist and Retired Sex Worker, Artemisia de Vine
The psychology behind our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and repeating patterns of attraction and desire.
'Sexual play is the perfect vehicle to explore all that it means to be human.'Ā
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I learned early on that there is an art to bringing your sexual fantasies out of your head and into your bed. It is not just a matter of living out your fantasies exactly as they are in your mind’s eye. You do not have to look like their celebrity crush, have a big dick, or actually be...
Spirituality is the very last thing I am thinking about when I am indulging in one of my deliciously twisted sexual fantasies. It seems impossible to reconcile the taboo feelings with pure heart-centred ecstasy.
Yet by trusting my sexual fantasies - and my sexual partner’s too -...
And sexual fantasies are powerful stories made by your own psyche designed to unlock powerful emotional charge!
If you watch a movie made by a master storyteller, your emotions will be evoked!
You'll fall in love with the main characters, hate the villain, squeal with surprise, feel vicarious...
The muses that inspire world-famous astrologer, Rob Brezsny, and the muses that give me regular insightgasms about the nature of sexual fantasies, are close cousins.
Hang on, what?!
What do horoscopes have to do with sexual fantasies?
Both are incredibly underrated sources...
Does breaking down the story narrative within your sexual fantasies make it less sexy?
Hell no! It leads to much better real-life sex! Here's why.
Just like we are hardwired for sex, we are also hard-wired for stories.
"Human beings have been telling stories as long as there’s...
Your sexual fantasies are the exact story your ego needs to hear so you can temporarily let your guard down and surrender to the vulnerability of pleasure and connection.
Once you understand the key narrative mechanisms in your fantasies, you can bring the power behind your fantasies out of your...
The things you think about can create an emotional and physical response in you while also shifting your consciousness from everyday mode, into desire and/or sexual arousal.
Sexual fantasies are valuable stories, tailor-made by your subconscious just for you, and are jam-packed with the...
Love can mean becoming the monster they need to interact with.
In our quest to understand the perplexing nature of our sexual turn-ons, it is useful to first understand the nature of fairytales and the nature of play. Then we can begin to recognize that our turn-ons are our personalized...
